22 Things That Parents Do That Cause More Harm Than Good
It seems there are new parenting trends every day. And everyone has the same idea: to do a better job than their own folks did. However, some...
Published 1 year ago in Wtf
It seems there are new parenting trends every day. And everyone has the same idea: to do a better job than their own folks did.
However, some parenting trends do nothing but create little monsters. If you want to raise your kid right, or just enjoy the trainwreck, here are the stupidest trends in parenting.
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When I was a teenager my parents took away the door to my room. It's normal for teenagers to pull away from their parents, I guess this wasn't acceptable to her and she wanted to keep an eye on me at all times.I still have severe issues relating back to this one action. This is after years of therapy and no contact. To anyone considering this as some form of "punishment", Let me stop you right there. Nothing will get your child to disown you faster than not giving them privacy.-u/Gabriel_Godot
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One is late potty training. Waiting to potty train a child is more and more common. Which I generally agree with. Wait until they’re 2.5-3 and knock it out. Some take longer, some are probably ready earlier. Better than rushing it and causing issues. What this has turned into. Not potty training. I nanny a 4-year old that is still in pull-ups. She is more than capable of using the potty. Our 4-year-old classroom just installed a diaper genie because so many 4-year-olds are starting preschool in diapers.My best friend who is a Kindergarten teacher had 2 kids start kindergarten in diapers. Luckily they’re potty trained now.-u/cleaning-meaning
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Talking down to kids and making them feel stupid. Sure maybe at 5, they aren't the most intellectual people, but 9/10-year-olds are smarter than people give them credit for. Don't talk to them like they are stupid because they are not. The only thing that does is lower their self-esteem and makes them feel small.-u/_ManWhoSoldTheWorld_
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Letting your kids run amok everywhere and then being furious when other people are annoyed. I'm an older mom. I was raised with the idea that you have a social contract with others to not be a pain in the ass. I don't let my kids go nuts in public. When they are having a hard time, we leave. I don't expect them to be angels for hours in adult situations, but being told to not be loud and crazy at the grocery or in line somewhere is not child abuse. Letting your kids be a hellion that everyone else cringes to see is so unfair to your kids.-u/beckybrothers
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Making your child terrified to fail. I remember constantly being told if I ever even got a “C” or below— on even something as minor as a pop quiz— I would be “flipping burgers for a living.” I was so unmotivated to even try by the time high school came, because it had been drilled into me that I was destined to be a loser.-u/ShitStuckInYourTeeth
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Parents incorporating personal wellness buzzwords into their excuses for being neglectful and sometimes even abusive to their kids. Like "I shouldn't have to owe my own time and money to somebody whose behavior just isn't contributing to my happiness and positive energy blah blah blah they're exploiting the legal and societal pressures on—" sir that is a fourteen-year-old you literally chose to raise and no amount of talking like a self-help book will change that, grow up.-u/dumbest_thotticus
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Parents who punish their kids for speaking up or otherwise explaining something, saying that they're "talking back". I honestly don't get why most parents refuse to admit they're not always right sometimes. Besides, what if their kid one day comes up to them and says another adult is touching them inappropriately?-u/EntryRepresentative5
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The “bulldozer” parent - ie the parent who removes all obstacles/challenges from a child’s life so they don’t learn about perseverance, problem-solving, failure (sometimes you can try hard and still not get the reward) and learning from mistakes - unless the goal is to develop a highly anxious person - then, being a bulldozer parent is great.-u/spinefexmouse
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Fake “Gentle Parenting” You hear and see so many parents letting their children do whatever they want, no matter how destructive, rude or hurtful their behaviors are. Parents find themselves beholden to the whims of their children's emotions in the name of gentle parenting, instead of true gentle parenting where (so I hear) boundaries are set alongside validating emotions.-u/canadainuk
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I don’t know how much of a trend it was but I’m TikTok there was a trend of parents throwing away their kid's art in front of them and the parents would, like, laugh while the kid was sobbing. That’s f*cked up! Of course, you can’t keep every artwork your kid makes but you throw it away when they aren’t home or asleep. My mom used to wait until I was asleep and throw it away in the outside can The kids I babysit their parents ask me to take their art they do with me so it doesn’t pile up but I tell them I’m keeping it because it’s so goodThere’s no reason to make your kid feel like they aren’t a good artist or just feel like their parents don’t care for some TikTok views -u/weston200
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